Does Your Boss Have Your Back?
by Molly Luffy
Do you ever feel like you’re going it alone on the choppy corporate seas? Feel like you really don’t have a strong support system of people who are there to look out for your best interests? No cadre of colleagues who are there to lend an ear or a hand?
If you are like most employees, you probably do feel this way from time to time. But what if you find yourself in an even worse situation of non-support? What if it seems to you that not only do you not have a support team, but you don't even have support from the one person you need it from the most - your boss?
I recently received an email from Sue, a fellow Wiz-dom subscriber, who is faced with this very difficult workplace issue - Sue's boss does not support her. Sue's sad story not only detailed examples of her bosses non-support but showed evidence of absolute undermining by the boss. Yikes!
Oh her boss says she supports Sue's supervisory decisions... "Sure Sue - I understand that you had to reprimand Sally." But then, as soon as Sue turns her back, Ms. Boss tells Sally not to worry about the reprimand. How bad is that?
So what can Sue do? Quit? Complain to Ms. Boss' boss? Put up with it? Have a nervous breakdown? Or is it possible that she can gain Ms. Boss's complete support?
Fixing a sticky work situation like this is never a sure thing, but it's certainly worth a shot. I mean why resort to quitting if you haven't even tried to make things work? Wondering how you even try to make things work? First you start by taking responsibility for the problem. You want it to be resolved, right? Then it's up to you to make it happen. Don't expect your version of the un-supportive boss to suddenly realize that she isn't supporting you. It's probably not going to happen. And it's not up to you to tell her either.
How do you think she'd react if you walked into her office one day and said "Ms. Boss - I don't think you support me enough?" It wouldn't be pretty.
Instead, take it upon yourself to try to become the employee that Ms. Boss goes out of her way to support because she wants to. But first you're going to need to find out what that means to her. What would you have to do in order to make your boss value you enough to support you?
Is Your Boss On Your Side?